How To Have A Balanced + Productive Routine As A SAHM
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Anyone who has been a stay-at-home parent knows that it doesn’t involve a lot of downtime.
And as mothers, we’re often told that it is vitally important to make sure we’re taking care of ourselves.
But, HOW? How do you fit it all in?
How do you parent, love your spouse, and make time for yourself?
I don’t think any of us has it down perfectly, but these tips are what help me get a long way towards that goal.
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1) Have A Consistent Start To The Day
I have a post about this regarding babies, but the same applies to us as mothers.
Having a consistent start to your day is so very helpful. It sets the foundation for your routine and generally will help you to get more done purely because you have a consistent time frame to work with.
It isn’t as difficult as you think to set up a morning routine and you’ll likely find that you accomplish more. As a result, your mood is lifted and the weight of your mental load is lessened.
Get my Ultimate Guide To Establishing A Morning Routine –> HERE!
2) Get Up Before Your Children
There are exceptions to this. If you or your kids are sick, or if you have a newborn, this does not apply.
Also, when I advise doing this, I’m not saying that you have to get up a lot earlier than your children, but even five minutes will be great!
I love the quiet time first thing, and the opportunity to catch up on emails and other admin jobs that I would otherwise struggle to concentrate on once my children are up. Plus, that first cup of tea had in the early morning quiet is just divine!
Another thing I love about being up first is the opportunity I have to talk to my husband before he heads out the door to work.
The children do see him for a short while before he leaves, but I get his attention in full before then. It’s a nice way to be able to find out what is on each other’s calendars for the day.
3) Get Chores Done Early
This makes such a difference to my day!
Anyone else heard of the witching hour? Yeah, it sucks and it means that getting chores done becomes really difficult. Find out my tips for navigating it here –> How to Approach + Survive the Witching Hour
Hence why getting as many chores done in the early part of the day is so helpful. (Need help with a cleaning routine? Check out –> THIS POST)
When things turn to custard in the afternoon, you’ve alread prepped your dinner, done most of the laundry, and taken care of the other important aspects of running a household.
Sure, things might not be perfect, but when are they ever?
4) Have A Compulsory Rest Time
From the hours of 1-3pm, our household has a compulsory rest period. My children are both either napping or having quiet time in their bedrooms.
This time is not negotiable.
Sleep, or don’t sleep, but those hours are sacred. I am at home with two toddlers day after day and it is healthy for all of us to have some time away from each other.
5) Have A Meal Plan
For us, dinner prep time falls right about when the witching hour starts.
I’m also just not a huge fan of cooking, so if I don’t have a plan in place for daily dinners, then I fall short. The solution for me is to have a meal plan. It makes my life so much easier!
Learn how to create your own –> HERE.
6) Work On A Consistent + Early Bed Time For Your Children
My kids go to bed at 7, sometimes earlier, rarely later.
There are two reasons for this. One is that they need the sleep.
For their ages (2 & under), they need around 10-12 hours of nighttime sleep. Having bedtime start approximately 12 hours before they’ll wake in the morning allows for restoration.
The second reason is for me, and my marriage. Come 7 pm I am ready (SO READY!) for a break.
I crave the quiet.
Having my kids in bed around 7 gives me an opportunity to spend quality, uninterrupted time with my husband, and also allows me time to mentally recharge.
As with many things in life, motherhood is about balance. How we each find that is unique and individual.
For me, it means having a flexible daily routine. This is what mine generally looks like:
- 6 am – Start the day
- 6-7am – Check emails, etc
- 7 am – Both children up
- 7:30-8am – Kids have breakfast
- 8-9am – Get chores done, get children dressed
- 9-10am – Get myself ready while both children have Independent Playtime (I also often do some chores or blog work during this time)
- 10-11: 30 am – This is when we leave the house if we need/want to. Otherwise, I’ll do some activities with the kids at home, or we’ll just chill.
- 11:30 am – Lunchtime for the kids
- 12 pm – Annie goes down for her nap and Jack and I spend some time together
- 1-3pm – Compulsory quiet time. Both children are in bed and I do whatever I want to be that, blog work, my devotions, or watching Netflix. I rarely do chores during this time. This is also when I have my lunch.
- 3-4pm – This hour is usually very chill in our home because both kids take a while to properly wake up from their naps, so it’s TV and snacks.
- 4-5: 30 pm – WITCHING HOUR! But really, this is when dinner gets made and my husband arrives home.
- 6 pm – Bath time for the kids. My husband often bathes the kids while I tidy up the kitchen, etc.
- 7 pm – Bedtime for both kids!
- 7-10pm – Chill time! I don’t often do ‘work’ in the evenings. I try and have all the chores done before the kid’s bedtime so I can relax come the evening. Bedtime for me generally falls between 10-11pm. 🙂