6 of the Very Best Tips for New Moms
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Becoming a new mom has by far been the hardest transition I’ve ever had to endure.
With that being said, it’s also my greatest blessing. Here, I’ll be sharing with you my new mom tips to keep your sanity.
No matter how much you read, how many questions you ask, nothing can prepare you for what you’re about to experience as a first time mom.
I definitely think the physical aspects of postpartum are discussed more than the mental. But, my mentality is what I struggled with most as a new mom, along with learning how to function on multiple sleepless nights.
#1 Be Patient
Oh, this is easier said than done. Thankfully I learned this one pretty quick.
I remember taking my newborn son to his very first appointment. Like always, I scheduled my appointment in the morning because that’s what I had always preferred.
Well, guess what, we were late. Why?
Because I underestimated the amount of time it was going to take to get ready with a new baby in tow.
This whole motherhood thing is new, but what’s also new is that sweet little baby. He/she is learning too!
Learning about this whole new life, being outside of your tummy. So, be patient. Be patient with your baby, your significant other and yourself.
#2 Don’t Compare
As a new mom, you will do this a lot. You’re going to compare yourself to every mama you see.
The mom you see in Target with the well behaved child. You’ll see the mom on Instagram with her hair and makeup done perfectly.
Or, the mama in the grocery store buying all organic products. Remember, this is only a small fraction of their life you actually see. Nobody is perfect.
I can tell you, so many mamas will look like they have it all figured out but realistically, do any of us have it all together? I don’t think so.
We all have messy bun days and we’re all exhausted. As time goes on, it does get easier and you’ll learn what works for you!
We are all on this road called motherhood but none of our paths is the same. Remember that.
#3 Accept Help
Let me tell you, I was offered help so many times but turned it down. Being a new mom, I felt the need to do it all.
But, at the end of the day, you can’t do it all. To our babies we are superwoman but realistically we are not, nor do we need to try to be.
Looking back now, when my mother offered to come watch my son so I could take a nap,
I should have taken it.
You’ll want to nap so bad but at the same time, you won’t want to take your eyes off that sweet new bundle of joy.
If a friend offers to bring you dinner, take it. If your husband offers to watch the baby so you can go get your hair done, take it! Mamas need their rest too.
#4 No Score Keeping
This is a huge no no, but I’m betting it’ll happen. My husband was able to take off work for the duration of my maternity leave.
Believe me, I was so thankful! His hours are third shift, so when he went back to work, it was an adjustment.
The middle of the night is not the time for arguments, but you’ll find that’s when a lot of them will happen.
“I just worked a 12-hour night shift, it’s your turn”. “Well, I was the one who got up the past two nights with our baby.”
These are similar conversations we would actually have. This isn’t good parenting and it’s definitely not good for your marriage.
Tensions are high, and you’ll say some “not so nice” things. Just remember you’re a team! Work with each other, not against each other.
As time passes, you’ll both find works best for you!
#5 Remember You Are Not Alone
At times you will feel that you are, but always remember, you are not alone.
There are so many new mamas in the world going through the same thing you are right now. Struggling and learning how to try and balance it all.
Talk to people. Talk to your husband. This is very important!
Through my postpartum journey, I shut mine out. I held everything in until I realized I needed to talk. Part of that is what started my blog journey!
Cling to your fellow mom friends. Whether they are also a new mom or veteran mom, they’ve been through it too!
Follow other moms on social media, read articles on Pinterest. You’ll find so many tips from mamas that have been where you are now.
#6 It’s Okay to Cry, Just Remember to Laugh
You will cry, a lot. Most of the time you’ll cry and won’t even know why.
Or, you’ll know why but it’ll just seem so silly at the time. This won’t be something brand new to you, pregnancy hormones are very similar.
Your hormones are going to be so crazy, you won’t even know who you are at times. Just remember, it is okay to cry. Your world has been completely turned upside down!
You’re going to be exhausted. You’re mentally and physically drained from trying to multitask motherhood, self care, your marriage and your home.
If crying helps you to feel better, let it out. From my personal experience, holding it in makes it worse. You’ll eventually want to explode.
Also, remember to laugh! Laugh at yourself, laugh with your partner. The very first poop diaper, my husband changed. Believe me, it was so funny! We both laughed!
Laughing is so good for the soul. Your baby is going to make some funny faces and that first smile will for sure have your heart melting.
Remember mama, this is only one of the many seasons of motherhood. Your life will be forever changed.
You’ll get to experience a new love you’ve never felt and in return that little baby will love you more than anything. Cherish these little moments.
Life happens so fast and before you know it, this season will be a distant memory.
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