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I think sometimes as parents we can be guilty of thinking that our child is the exception to the rule.
Y’know, we’ve got the difficult sleeper, or the colicky newborn, or the baby that gets overstimulated far too easily? Which of course means that the typical parenting methods won’t be effective.
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Well yes, babies are all different and it is our job as parents to be able to evaluate and meet the needs of our children individually. However, I would put to you that the Babywise method is something that can easily be applied to a very broad range of babies.
(If you’ve never heard of Babywise, then check out –> THIS POST)
I know moms that have used Babywise with great success who have had many other issues to deal with.
We’re talking reflux, colic, and a barrage of other medical challenges. In fact, those women even say that Babywise made life easier.
So, I would encourage you to take a look at the method before passing it off as ‘not gonna work’. It’s something that can be used with most babies because of the reasons below:
1) The Principles Are Basic
The principles aren’t complicated and are simple to put into practice. That doesn’t mean that by doing ‘xyz’ your baby will respond a certain way. After all, they aren’t robots. But, it will encourage them towards the end goal of establishing healthy sleep habits.
Some of the basic principles of Babywise are the ‘eat, wake, sleep’ cycle, establishing a desired wake time, and encouraging independent sleep skills.
2) You Make The Schedule
Babywise works for you and your family, not the other way around. This is a sentiment that is repeated over and over again in the book.
I love that Babywise gives you the tools you need to help set your baby up with healthy sleep habits, but still acknowledges that the routine is up to you to decide.
All families are different, which means routines will be different. We have a desired wake time of 7 am, but I know of other mamas that have a desired wake time of 9 am. You do what works for you and your child.
(Read more about establishing a desired wake time –> HERE)
That goes for sleep needs and medical needs as well. Parent-led doesn’t equate neglecting the needs of your children. It just means that you have the ultimate say while taking into consideration the needs of the entire family.
3) Structure Provides Security
All children thrive when they are given structure. Again, structure doesn’t necessarily mean harsh and unyielding.
Instead, Babywise encourages consistency that is coupled with flexibility as your child’s needs change and develop.
4) Consistency Reveals Needs
This is possibly one of my favourite things about Babywise. With the consistency that it provides, it makes your children’s needs that much more evident.
When they nap at the same times every day and then start struggling to nap, you know that you need to reevaluate things because they were previously doing fine.
At night time, if my children cry I know something is wrong because they both usually sleep right through with no issues.
5) It Is Only A Guide
This is the beauty of Babywise. It isn’t the bible. It isn’t a rigid method that requires you to follow every little detail to the minute.
No, it is a guide. And like all guides, you should take what works for your baby and discard the rest.
My firstborn was a chronic cat-napper for the first 9 months of his life. It was frustrating, but because I implemented Babywise with him it took the pressure off because I knew that I was doing everything I should.
His cat naps were a biological issue that fixed themselves over time. However, he still learnt to put himself to sleep independently and be well rested.
P.S Babies Need To Learn Independent Sleep Skills
No baby is born knowing how to put themselves to sleep independently.
Some babies do it more easily than others and will just so happen to nap without much issue, but that is luck, not skill.
Even those babies that start out as ‘easy sleepers’ often eventually hit a bump in the road that parents are then led to address.
That is why Babywise is a valuable resource. It ensures that your baby learns healthy sleep habits from the getgo.
Read about that here –> How To Start Babywise From Day One
My second child was much easier to put to sleep than my first, but that didn’t mean that she didn’t still require teaching. We still put in the effort so that she learnt healthy sleep habits.
Even to this day, she loves her sleep more than her older brother, but they both go to sleep well and sleep right through the night unless something is wrong.
So while I won’t say that Babywise will work for everyone, I will say that it does work for a very wide range of differing children. You don’t have to have a textbook baby to have a good sleeper.
Until next time!
This week is a big week of blogging for the ladies of the Babywise Friendly Blogging Network (read more about it –> HERE). Our topic is Babywise and sleep. Every day Mon-Fri there will be at least one post on the subject. You can find the links to all of them below:
Once you move on up into the toddler and preschool years, sleep troubleshooting often looks different to troubleshooting sleep issues for babies.
Val does a wonderful job of clearly outlining how much mental and physical exercise affects the sleep of toddlers and preschoolers.
She gives helpful tips to work through any issues you might be having.
Caitlin – Twin Mom and More
7 Ways To Establish Good Sleep Habits From Birth (must-read for expecting moms)
Sleep training is often recommended to be started only after a baby is 4-months old. Really, it is up to the parent’s discretion. However, it is never too early to start establishing healthy sleep habits.
Caitlin has written a brilliant post that gives practical and helpful tips to get you started.
This is a perfect post for the new or expecting mom!
Natasha – Let’s Be Brave
This is often a transition that moms dread because they’re not sure how to go about it.
It can also be daunting wondering what you’re going to do with your child during the hours that they would normally be asleep for.
Natasha has written a great summary of how to know when your child is ready for this transition, as well as how to go about implementing it.
Katrina – Mama’s Organized Chaos
The transition that daunted me more than the 2-1 nap transition was definitely the one where naps are said goodbye to entirely.
Dropping the final nap does not mean that your child does not still need some amount of rest during the day.
Katrina has written up a post that will help you as the parent identify if your child is indeed ready for this last nap transition.
Kim – Team Cartwright
Our kids go to bed at the same time almost every night. They very rarely fall asleep straight away, and I personally have no issue with that.
Kim has written this post to address why its totally okay and actually something you might want! Kids don’t have to fall asleep straight away.
Christine – Christine Keys
Has your baby got colic, reflux, or is just high needs?
You may write Babywise off because your baby is considered outside of the range of ‘normal’.
This post is written to encourage you to reconsider as Babywise has been known to be successful for all kinds of babies. In fact, many moms give testament to it making their lives so much easier!
Carrie – Wiley Adventures
There is a ton of information out there about how to implement healthy sleep habits for babies, however, I love that Carrie has written a post about how to continue that with older children.
Older children still have difficulties with sleep at times and still require healthy boundaries in order to flourish.
Emily – The Journey of Parenthood
Believe it or not but babies are not all the same. Rocket science, right?
In all seriousness, this post from Emily on addressing levels of sleep needs is incredibly helpful as a parent.
It is so important to be able to recognise in the individual needs of our children so that we can do our best to set them up for success.
Hi! I’m Christine. I am a former registered nurse, turned stay-at-home mom, turned work-at-home mom!
Motherhood has always been my passion and blogging has only added to that and given me a creative outlet to share about the things I love.
As my blog has grown, my desire to share the knowledge of what makes my life less stressful, simplified, and more fulfilled has become one of my driving forces.
I have a heart for mothers that feel as though they are just existing from day to day and are longing for more. You can find out more about me and my family over on my ‘About Me‘ page.
As well as the abundance of posts you’ll find on my blog, you can also find me over at Today Parenting.