5 Powerful Ways To Prepare Your Mind For Childbirth

Childbirth. I’ve gone through it twice and the greatest challenge by far is the mental one. There is so much expectation and anticipation around the event and we somehow equate how the childbirth progresses with our worth as a mother. Nothing could be farther from the truth but in order to avoid feelings of guilt and pressure, it is important to prepare yourself mentally. So, here are 5 powerful ways to prepare your mind for childbirth.


Mama, knowledge is power. Not only will it equip you with what you need to know to make the right decisions for your delivery but it will help to settle your fears. When you know what to expect then you are less likely to reach panic mode during the whole process. For someone who has never gone through labour before many of the feelings and sensations can be very strange. For some labour may feel natural but it didn’t feel that way my first time around.

A little word of caution though. Do your research so you can be well-informed, but don’t get too hung up on it. Childbirth requires some level of trust. You can set yourself into a tizzy by needing to know every little thing that could go wrong.

Have A Game Plan

There is a reason midwives in New Zealand urge women to have a birth plan. Not only does it serve as a clear guide for what you do and do not want for your childbirth, but it also helps to put your mind at rest. There are so many unknowns about childbirth. No one can truly predict what will happen. For that reason, having a game plan or in this case birth plan, can set your mind at ease knowing that there are clear instructions on what to do in every type of delivery.

I cannot stress how important this is. You need to feel safe and supported during your childbirth experience. Your body needs to be able to relax and having people there that are onboard with supporting you will help tremendously with that.

I had my mother and my husband present during both deliveries and I’m SO glad, especially during my second delivery. My daughter had trouble breathing initally after she was born. I was surprisingly calm during the whole process but I was also disappointed in the care I received (or didn’t) from my midwife during the whole ordeal. Having people I trusted to advocate on my behalf was invaluable in keeping me calm. It also really helped me to achieve a (mostly) unmedicated birth with both my children. You can read my tips to achieving that HERE.

Your body and your mind will be better able to handle childbirth if you can trust those around you.

Trust Your Body

Speaking of trust…trust your body.

Now, I’m not going to be one of those people that cheers and says “you were designed for this!”. Because, quite frankly we all know that women are capable of bearing children, but it doesn’t mean that all are able to. My own mother had to have all 4 of her children delivered via c-section because her body was not physically capable of delivering vaginally. It was because of that that I didn’t know what to expect when it came to my own deliveries. It turns out that I was able to deliver both of my children vaginally with no complications.

So, while I am a complete advocate of ‘natural’ childbirth, I will say that you need to trust your body either way. Trust it to guide you through the labour process. However, if something really doesn’t feel right, trust it then too and speak up. You are advocating for both you and your child. 🙂

Be Open

This is incredibly, incredibly important. I have witnessed far too many mothers living with regret because of how they view the outcome of their childbirth.

We need to remember that the goal here is to deliver a child. Whether that ends up being via a vaginal delivery or c-section is beside the point. The safety of you and your child is paramount.

Create your birth plan but think of it as being written in pencil, ready to be erased and rewritten should the circumstances change. There should be no guilt in childbirth. I’ve seen mamas beating themselves up because they ended up having to have a c-section, and other mamas miserable because their childbirth turned into something traumatic because they were so set on delivering a certain way, that it ended up causing more harm than good.

So, be open. Remember the end goal and embrace the journey.

What I wish I could tell every first-time mama is that the type of childbirth you have does not define the kind of mother you will be. We’re all built differently and do our best with the tools we are given. With that being said, while I know it isn’t realistic, my hope is that every mama gets to look back on her childbirth experience with fondness.

What helped you most during childbirth? What helped you battle the mental challenge of it? Share your tips with me in the comments below!

Until next time!

5 Powerful Ways To Prepare Your Mind For Childbirth | Learn how to mentally prepare your mind for labour and delivery so you can have the best birth experience!

5 Powerful Ways To Prepare Your Mind For Childbirth | Learn how to mentally prepare your mind for labour and delivery so you can have the best birth experience!

5 Powerful Ways To Prepare Your Mind For Childbirth | Learn how to mentally prepare your mind for labour and delivery so you can have the best birth experience!

Hi! I'm Christine...a stay-at-home mum to two tiny humans. My constant focus is having my home run as smoothly as possible. Keeping two kids alive, and maintaining my sanity is also a priority. Most Saturday nights, you can find me hunkered down watching Grey's Anatomy, and hopefully nibbling on some chocolate. :)

  • Caroline

    This is such a great post, I completely agree with everything you’ve written! My midwife was so positive in the lead up to my two births and pretty much ingrained in me that I can do this without pain relief as my body knows what to do. So I told myself that for 9 months and I think it really helped! Just a little gas with the first bub and drug free with the second. There’s no gold medal at the end, so you just have to do what’s right for you and your bub but preparing mentally really helps 🙂

    • Christine Keys

      Absolutely! I’m so glad you were able to have positive birth experiences. 🙂

  • Great post. I’ll be having my first baby in November and I’m the first to admit that I have no clue what I am doing. I’m usually pretty confident in everything I do, but this is new territory. Research is definitely helping me.

    • Christine Keys

      I don’t think there’s a single woman on this earth who would say she’s confident about becoming a mother. Best wishes for your future bubs! Such an exciting time. xo

  • Sharon Glascoe

    Be open! Such true words! I am a planner so when things don’t go according to plan, I tend to stress. I need to remember to keep an open mind during the whole process. Thanks for the tip!

  • Kirsta Reisinger

    I can tell you that my second birth went soo much easier because I told myself I could do it. The first time around
    i constantly doubted my ability ti give birth and it made it incredibly difficult.

    • Christine Keys

      Yes! It really is such a mind game.

  • Christine Keys

    Me too! It can be hard to just let go and trust the process.

  • Taylor Dietrich

    Thank you for sharing this! About to give birth in 6 weeks and woke up last night all worried about the actual process for the first time. This helped.

    • Christine Keys

      I’m so glad! All the best with the arrival of your little one. xo

  • These are some wonderful tips. In fact, they are great tips for any big event coming your way. Thanks for sharing!

    • Christine Keys

      You’re welcome! 🙂

  • Jenna Urben

    These are great tips and I’ll keep them in mind for the future!!

    • Christine Keys

      No worries!

  • Amanda Kanashiro

    Great tips. Keeping an open mind is critical. Things can change in a moment. It doesn’t make you a failure if you can’t deliver as you had planned. After all, the result is the same…a beautiful baby!

    • Christine Keys


  • vriley85

    I totally agree that knowledge is power! I researched EVERYTHING when I was pregnant

    • Christine Keys

      Right?! It can help so much!

  • andreajesus10

    Well if I ever decide to get married at my age (58) and have a baby….

  • Pingback: A Natural and Wonderful Water Birth | Annie's Birth Story — Christine Keys()