31 Week Pregnancy Update: Adjusting Expectations
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I feel as though this week has been a classic example of “one step forward, two steps back”.
I had a day or two that weren’t too bad, but the days following kinda knocked me off my feet again. Ha!
I think I’ve had this mindset that I’m in a phase of sorts that will pass quite soon. However, I think it has finally dawned on me that the only time that this phase is ending, is when this little girl vacates my body.
Thankfully, that point isn’t that far in the future. It just means that I’ve had to have a bit of a mindset change and work on adjusting my expectations.
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
I feel like the above title really sums up this week.
It started with nausea, which I put down to being heavily pregnant. After all, it isn’t uncommon for morning sickness to make a come back near the end. Also, it felt more like indigestion than anything else.
However, on Sunday night I felt really unwell. My sister (whom we had visited earlier that day) wasn’t feeling great, and Jack was off his food and had a fever on Monday.
All of that to say, it might have been a bug, or it could just be pregnancy. Especially because while I did feel better as the week went on, I still have felt nauseous throughout the day.
For the most part, sleep is pretty disturbed now. I’m just so big so when I need to turn over it’s kind of an event of sorts.
Also, often I end up rolling onto my back while I’m asleep. This wakes me up for two reasons. One is that I can’t breathe properly, and the other is the pain.
I would say that the pain is related to the pressure that the baby is putting on my pelvis during that time. When I wake up on my back its usually a really big, painful effort to switch positions.
However, I did have one night where I slept really well and the following day was kind of amazing.
Things haven’t been as bad. I think being aware and mindful has helped a lot.
I only had one day this week where I really really struggled. That day I woke up tired and with a really foggy brain. It lasted all day and I ended up retreating to my room almost as soon as Shane got home.
Once again, I feel the need to sing the praise of my husband. I never expected him to be so understanding and supportive, but he is.
I think the thing I appreciate the most is that he has never made me feel as though I’m inadequate in any way for struggling. He understands that it isn’t something that I can control.
I still haven’t heard from the maternity mental health team, so I’ll be bringing that up again when I see my midwife on Monday.
It’s not urgent, but I don’t want to slip under the radar either.
On Monday I really had to work on this area.
I had had a rough night from being unwell and was wiped out. I knew that I needed to rest. However, resting and letting go of things that ‘need’ doing is not something I’m very good at.
At first, I scaled back my to-do list. I kept it to 3 things that I felt were necessary.
After a little while, I realised just how unnecessary they actually were. Guys, I was planning on decluttering the kid’s cupboard on a day that I was supposed to be resting.
So, I nixed that todo list as well. In fact, I even stopped myself from making the beds and I let the kids stay in their PJs until almost lunchtime.
All of that may sound so ridiculous to you, but it honestly took constant reminders to me that it was ooooookaaaay.
One day of letting things go wasn’t going to hurt anything or anyone. And you know what? I actually got to rest and I felt so much better by the evening!
This pregnancy has been so challenging, but I’m thankful for what it has taught me about the importance of self-care and managing my mental load.
Ugh, I woke up on Sunday morning with the worst swelling!
It lasted all day and I honestly felt like I had turned into a puffer fish overnight. Strangely enough, it was the same day that I felt nauseous and unwell.
I have no idea if the two were related to one another, but thankfully the swelling went away almost completely by the next day.
I do have some swelling and water weight, but I’m still able to wear my wedding rings and it isn’t causing me any real discomfort.
So, after all the anxiety that I had regarding the frequency of the contractions I was having, they’ve actually calmed right down.
I’m so thankful!
On the odd occasion where they have been a bit of a nuisance, I’ve managed to get them to stop and ease by getting into a position where I can let my belly hang. I’ve been using my exercise ball for this a lot of the time.
It has also been used in the evenings when my back is giving me grief.
She’s Coming Soon!
The nursery is almost finished.
In fact, except for her video monitor, I think it might be pretty much complete by the end of next week. We shall see.
Something that I got this week that I was thrilled to receive was a wrap from Solly Baby. I reached out to them to see if they would be interested in a collaboration. They were quick to respond and say yes!
So, I will be coming at you with a full review once this little girl arrives. In the meantime looooooooook…how gorgeous is it?!
I think the reality of her arriving soon is really starting to hit home. It could be in part because of how big she feels now.
She’s lying posterior (back to back with me) so I’m feeling all four of her limbs moving. The movements aren’t rolling and gentle, I can assure you! Think more ‘poky’ and sharp. I still love them all the same.
At times I feel as though I could just reach down and grab her foot. In fact, I’ve often found myself telling her to pull it back in and stop poking me so much.
She’s also just like her older siblings were in that she gets the hiccups at least once a day. And when she does, I know all about it.
I’m so looking forward to her being on the outside and getting to know the little person that she is.
This upcoming week holds quite a few exciting things. Well, for me anyway!
I’ll also have a midwife update for you next time around.